When we’re in a relationship, the subtle things we do and say can have a big impact – for better or worse. If we want to stop making someone feel insecure in a relationship we first need to take an honest look at our behavior.

While it’s true that feeling confident and secure has to come from within, it’s also true that we can unintentionally cause our partner to feel insecure when we are careless with our words or actions.

Understanding how to avoid triggering insecurities in our relationship can help us build a stronger foundation for happiness

What Causes Insecurities In Relationships?
To say exactly what causes insecurity in a relationship is impossible because everyone’s experience is different. There are, however, some common things that often factor into causing relationship insecurities.  

Behaviors that can cause insecurity in a relationship include:

  • Expressing an attraction to someone else
  • Keeping our partner from meeting our close friends or family
  • Being secretive about where we are, who we’re with or what we’re doing
  • Using careless or hurtful comments about our partner’s appearance, intelligence or personality
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Stop making your partner feel insecure and start strengthening your relationship.

If we find ourselves doing any of these things and we’re looking for ways to stop making someone feel insecure in a relationship – our first step is easy – STOP doing these things.

They don’t help the situation and really, they’re just not nice things to do anyway.

Of course, it’s possible that we’re dating someone who is insecure for reasons that have nothing to do with us. Dealing with relationship insecurity is challenging no matter where it stems from. The good news is, relationships with insecure people can still be successful, but they do require extra effort from both partners.

Ways to Stop Making Someone Feel Insecure in a Relationship

These 5 ways to stop making someone feel insecure in a relationship are actually good advice for building a healthy relationship in general but are particularly important if we’re making our partner feel insecure. Regardless of where our relationship insecurities stem from, practicing these tips can help.

  1. Be Honest & Trustworthy

Relationship insecurity is often caused when we give our partner a reason not to trust us. Lying, cheating, or keeping secrets can cause unfixable damage to our relationship. We should always be honest with our partner – and ourselves. If we find that we are keeping secrets from our partner it’s time to ask ourselves if we’re in the right relationship. Being honest and trustworthy should be easy if we’re in a healthy, loving relationship.  

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  1. Communicate Openly

Keeping the lines of communication open for our partner to share their insecurities and fears can help them become more confident and reassured. Good communication involves a lot of listening as well as an openness to exploring the things that make us feel most vulnerable. Sharing these feelings can strengthen our partnership and ease relationship insecurities

  1. Give Compliments

Everyone loves to hear something nice about themselves. If our partner is feeling insecure, it’s especially important to help them build their confidence by reminding them how wonderful we think they are. Let them know they’re beautiful, smart, funny – amazing. Finding ways to give our partner compliments can really make their day – but it also feels good to remind ourselves what we love about them.

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  1. Show Gratitude

Getting into the habit of showing our appreciation and expressing thanks for the things our partner does will help them feel more secure in the relationship. Often, the longer we’ve been in a relationship, the more we get used to our partner doing things for us and we start to take for granted what we once were so grateful for. Whether it’s doing our laundry or cooking our favorite meal, we should make an effort to tell our partner we appreciate all they do.

  1. Go for a Walk

Ok, it doesn’t have to be a walk and forgive me if it seems out of context. Exercise has been shown to be a highly effective way to improve self-confidence. Exercise not only helps us feel better about our appearance, it also changes our body chemistry and literally makes us feel good from the inside out. It boosts endorphins and reduces stress and anxiety. Getting regular exercise with our partner can help us energize our relationship and overcome insecurities.

You Can Stop Relationship Insecurity

If our relationship is in danger but we know it’s worth saving, we should be willing to do the work necessary to save it. And there’s a silver lining to going through the challenge of solving relationship insecurity with our partner – in the end, it can create an even deeper, more meaningful connection.


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8 thoughts on “5 Ways to Stop Making Someone Feel Insecure In a Relationship

  1. Liz N. says:

    Honesty and gratitude would be two of the big ones for me. You want to trust your partner, so honesty is a must. And gratitude lets you know they appreciate you (and keeps you from looking elsewhere for that feeling!).

  2. Mari says:

    Carrying most of the work load for both people without sharing at least half of it and working long hours to ensure that he has everything he needs can make her feel pretty insecure.

  3. Talin says:

    Hello Dhar & Laura!😘❤️ I live in Glendale and although my dream vacation would be Greece 🇬🇷 I would have to say a reasonable destination would be Alaska. My husband and I never went on a honeymoon due to work and health related issues. He felt bad about it and told me that wen though we hadn’t gone on a honeymoon that we would go on small trips in the future and call them manymoon trips lol. We have been together 14 years and married 4 of those years. The last four have been challenging in both health and Finances and we have yet to go on a honeymoon or start our plans for the manymoon trips. With the $1000 we would be able to kickstart our manymoom trips (won’t be enough for a dream trip, but it’s more than enough for a small getaway). Also, I would favorite trip you guys went to would be Mykonos 👌🏼. Thank you to the both of you for this great giveaway. 🤞🏼💕

  4. Amber godinez says:

    Hello my name is Amber and I live in Apple Valley California. For this trip I would take my husband and we would want to go to Hawaii. We really love the beach and have never gone there. This would be important to us because we never had a honeymoon and would like to go somewhere alone to spend quality time with each other. We also work opposite schedules and a little time off together would be great.
    My favorite tip from the buzzfeed article is to commit to a consistent schedule.

  5. Monika says:

    Hi! I’m from NY and I like to go to Cali with my bf! We’re in a long distance relationship and haven’t seen each other in months since we are both busy med students. We’ve missed spending our anniversary and birthdays together and this trip would mean a lot to us.

  6. Stefanie King says:

    I would LOVE to take my boyfriend on our dream trip to Canada. He talks about going to Canada literally every single day. My boyfriend is one of the best people on this planet. I don’t know where i would be without him. Since we were sophomores in high school I lived with him because my family was having a lot of money issues and had to move into a one bedroom hotel with my mom, step dad, brother and sister. so there was obviously no room for me. Throughout all I was going through at the time with my family’s money problems, my boyfriend was MY ROCK. I couldn’t possibly ask for someone more loving and supportive. even though we were only 15 him and his family took me in. ever since he has given me everything I could ever want. We are now 21 and are juniors in college! We are definitely broke college students. We were already saving literally every penny to try to go to canada the second week of march, but my car broke down and had to use what we saved to fix it. He supports me so much with everything I do, emotionally and financially. I would love to be able to give something to him for once. who knows where i would be without him. If i could just do ONE thing for him, I would be so greatful. I love yalls relationship, it is definitely one to look up too. y’all are literally the ultimate goals. Even if I don’t win i’m greatful for the opportunity!! Love y’all!!
    my favorite tip from Dhar is ENGAGE with your followers! y’all do so much to engage with your supporters and trust me everyone appreciates it!!
    (we are from fort worth texas!)

  7. Iris says:

    Hi you guys! Thankyou for doing this generous giveaway, I have so much respect for you guys for giving back, especially when you go out and prepare food for the homeless, you guys are awesome. For the vacation giveaway I would like to nominate my mom. We are here in California. Ever since i could remember, my mom has been my rock. She raised me and my brother all by herself. She would find work cleaning houses, laundrymats, selling food, finding any type of way to keep a roof over our head and keeping food on the table. She made sure we had clean and when possible new clothes, while she shopped at second hand stores for herself. Me and my brother began working at 15 in fast food to help her and now i am thankful to god that we are able to show our appreciation for everything she did for us by taking care of her. I dont know where she would like to go, but i can say this..she loves the water and is the most grateful person i know, and she would be eternally grateful to you guys for gifting her a trip. (Thanks again you two, love u)
    Ps. Dhar i think your buzzfeed article was on point. My favorite advice you gave for influencers starting out is to stick to one area of expertise. I say that because theres lots of pages out there that have too much content of different subjects and it definitely will lose a viewers interest if they came on to your page looking for one subject that caught their attention and they get a load of bunch of unrelated content. So great advice!

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